I’m just the kind of person who [fill in the blank]

It was mid August, 2021.

We had just gotten back from taking a 10-day vacation. We had packed up the kids and drove 12 hours to our favorite spot on Hilton Head Island in SC. This trip is a non-negotiable for us—at least one family vaca, just the 4 of us, every year. Period. 

We ended up getting back home late at night. The next morning, I was the first one up and headed down to make the coffee. And that’s when I heard it: “I’m just the kind of person who needs alone time to recharge.”

I heard it plain as day, almost as if I was justifying enjoying silence. I’ll never forget that moment, the voice in my head was so loud and clear.

I knew right at that moment that that voice, that thought, was a belief I held about myself (because I was deep into my NeuroCoaching^TM program). For some reason, that thought jumped out of my subconscious mind into my consciousness so that I could hear it. 

And then I got curious…

🕵🏻‍♀️ “Am I?” I thought. “Am I that kind of person?”

🕵🏻‍♀️ “Do I want to be that kind of person?”

🕵🏻‍♀️ “Does being that kind of person align with who I really want to be?”

I knew that if the answers were all NO I could choose to be a different kind of person. I could change that thought.

Just because that was an automated belief I held didn’t mean that I couldn’t break it and automate a new one.

Our identity is made up of the beliefs we hold about ourselves—the beliefs we hold about success, failure, money, loving and being loved, and safety. Some beliefs were chosen as adults. Most were just absorbed from our environments and experiences growing up.

Is your mind blown yet? 

What do you think about the idea that you can alter your beliefs about yourself and literally re-write parts of your identity?

Truth is, rewiring your brain is only a 4-step process:

1️⃣Recognize, 2️⃣Record, 3️⃣Refute, 4️⃣Rewire. And it only takes 67 days! 

For me, I decided I was okay with keeping that one! 12 hours down, 12 hours back, and 9 nights between left me only short bursts of alone time on our family vacation… And now I know it’s something as equally non-negotiable for me. “I’m just the kind of person who needs alone time to recharge.” Which means I can choose to schedule time in when I need it. I know how to fill my cup when it starts to dip below the rim. 

Because as one of my southern-belle mentors loves to say in the most charming accent: “Only pour from your damn saucer!”

What kind of person do you believe you are? 

The Designer’s Approach was developed as a simple step-by-step way for anyone to intentionally create a life and business they love. There are SO many facets to who we are, and fulfillment comes from integrating all of them. Download your TDA Guide so that you can start seeing the results of new beliefs in every area of your life.