What do you say to yourself when you walk past a mirror?

In my obsession with mindset, how it works, and how it affects your life and business, I learned that we’re very good at lying to ourselves.

We do it all day, every day. The thoughts we have on autopilot are not necessarily good. They’re perpetuating a life that we may not want, they’re driving the plane and you’re not even paying attention.

When I learned about this I realized that if my life is a reflection of my thoughts, and I’ve been telling myself lies that influenced my actions which made them a reality…

…Then why not tell myself lies that create the life I want?!

Soon after I realized that every time I looked in the mirror I would say the meanest things to myself, things I wouldn’t say to the face of someone I hated (I don’t hate people, but you get the point). I treated myself as if I deserved to be hated, loathed, degraded, put down, knocked off her pedestal. Someone who was rotten, someone who should never receive love and compassion. I just thought…

“Eww.” “Ugh.” “Gross.” 

The worst part is, I realized I had been doing it my entire teen and adult life. We’re talking 20+ years of autopilot fighter jets shooting me down every chance they could get.   

I tried to figure out why. Then I got mad at myself for not knowing better. Then I figured it out and put myself to the test. 

I decided to start telling myself better lies to see what would happen. I started with this one: “I’m aging backward!” How ridiculous, right? I’m not J-Lo! …but if she can do it, what I’ve been telling myself all along can’t be the truth. It’s not the law. 

I don’t know how long I’ve been doing this… but… I think it’s doing some incredible things.

• I say nice things to myself when I look in the mirror. 
• I bought myself a $2000+ spin bike (plus subscription!). 
• I USE it! 
• I invest in nutrition for my body. 
• My weight is down. 
• My cellulite is almost gone. 
• I don’t have wrinkles yet!! 
• My clothes feel really good when I put them on my body. 
• I have ENERGY. 
• I take care of my stress levels. 
• [I’m about to embark on a new love affair with collagen, stay tuned for more.] 
• I am healing from Covid.

All of that would have felt VERY selfish to the old me. VERY extra. VERY unnecessary. Because I thought I was undeserving. I knew I was “made in His image” but didn’t understand what that truly meant.

But what I realized is that my inner thoughts, create my outward emotions, which drive my actions, which affect not only my life but the people around me.

I realized it is IMPERATIVE to show my kids how to BE. How to cherish themselves. How to raise their vibrations.

I’m not perfect. I’m not great at this. I have A LOOOTTTT to learn. But this was a big one for me. 

With love, from my mirror to yours… 🥰 Go ahead and start re-designing your thoughts.